CultureGetting Married in Muslim Community
Getting Married in Muslim Community
'And We have created everything in pairs that perhaps you may remember.'(Quran)
Leaving the childhood behind and becoming man and wife together is the most important step that any person takes in the interests of his or her own happiness and wellbeing.
And among Allah's signs is this: 'He created for you spouses from among yourselves, so that you might find rest in them and He has set between you love and compassion. Truly there are signs in this for people who reflect.'
'Our Lord, grant us the delight of our eyes from our wives and our offspring....'
Marriage is such an important step that our Prophet spoke of marriage as being 'half the religion'. 'Whoever has married has completed half of his religion; therefore let him fear Allah in the other half'.
If your marriage is happy and fulfilled then no matter what troubles may beset you will always face them as if your back were against a protecting fortress inside the walls of which you may set aside all the terrors and traumas for a while and be loved.
By claiming it to be half the religion the Prophet was not making an idle statement. When a couple strive hard to get their marriage and family right in the eyes of God they are indeed well on the road to Paradise.God has made us guardians of this wondrous planet and its life-forms. And the most important life form that we will ever have to cherish is our own partner, our husband or wife. We should build up our own lives free from fears and resentments and uncertainties so that we can concentrate on filling our space with love and the service of God.
Islam is intended to cover every aspect of a believer's life, our relationship with our life partner and family certainly accounts for at least half of this time. No human being was intended to live in isolation. God created Man and Woman from a single soul and He intended them to live and work together.
'O humanity; fear your Lord, Who created you from a single soul and from it created its spouse and from the them did spread forth a multitude of men and women,.'
'We created you from a single pair of male and female.'
In this is a sure sign. Each is necessary to the other. People may live and work and have faith on their own but it is only a 'half-life'.
Married life brings its pressures but it can also provide the kind of relaxation that human beings naturally need. Imam al-Ghazali observes that:
'One of the benefits of marriage is the enjoyment of the company and the sight of one's spouse and by shared amusement, whereby the heart is refreshed and strengthened for worship for the soul is prone to boredom and is inclined to shun duty as something unnatural to it.
The most fundamental team of all and one which is the most important is that of a man and woman deciding to live together in one space as husband and wife.